In a long-distance relationship? Wondering how to stay connected emotionally and physically across the miles? Here are some hot, tried-and-true tips for FaceTime lovers. 

How To Keep a Long-Distance Relationship Sexy

Build anticipation

Anticipation is a key part of the excitement in a long-distance relationship. The more you build anticipation across the miles, the more physically and emotionally bonded you feel with your partner. 

If you know you'll be talking to your lover later on, flirt by text throughout the day. Let them know that this evening's conversation will be about more than what you had for lunch. Before the call starts, ask them to wear something sexy for you and let them know that you plan to do the same.

Planning something new and different for your call will show effort, boost your interest the night's agenda, and create a mood of excitement. The steamier visuals won't hurt either!

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Set the scene

Speaking of mood, don't forget to establish a seductive scene. Dim the lights, play music in the background, and have your sex toys cleaned, charged, and set to go. I personally like to light candles and take the call from bed for maximum mood-setting.

The idea is to curate an environment that helps you and your partner get in the mood and stay in the mood without interruptions. Make sure to have everything ready so you can stay in the moment and focused on your partner. 

Other sexy settings can include:

• On the floor in front of a fire
• The bathtub
• An outdoor spot with meaning to both of you
• The dinner table

One of my favorite things to do when my partner and I are apart is to set the dining table for two, prepare dinner, and eat together if our time zones allow. Video call cocktails or a picnic at home or in a park can be a fun way to enjoy date night, no matter how great the distance. 

Learn more about setting a mood of intimacy and connection: How To Practice Sex Magic

Learn the language

Brush up on your verbal skills ahead of time. Now, I know some folks think spicy talk should be off-the-cuff, but I beg to differ. There's no sense floundering around in the moment for a flirty remark or sizzling compliment. You can dramatically amp up verbal play if you keep some hot lines in your arsenal and drop them at the perfect moment. 

Verbal play should always reflect who you are and how you feel about your partner. Just think of what you find most attractive and appealing about your partner and come up with some sexy, meaningful ways to express that.

Still not sure what to say to your sweetie? Check out How To Talk Dirty for specific prompts and ideas. 

Stroll down memory lane

If you're not sure how to get the ball rolling, start by revisiting old memories. Think of a time when you shared some unforgettable intimacy and go over it together, one sexy mental image at a time. You can say things like:

• Remember that time we....fill in the blank
• It was so hot the way you did this
• I can't wait to do x y z again
• The next time we're together I'm going to do x y z
• I loved doing that. What if we tried something like x y z next time?

Starting with shared memories is not only a great technique for building on past intimacy, it's an ideal way to segue into your desire for each other in this moment.  

Try app-controlled sex toys

One of the best ways to play together from a distance is to use sex toys that can be controlled by your partner, no matter where they are in the world. All you need is two phones, a WiFi connection, and a toy (or two!). 

Once a niche item, app-controlled sex toys have exploded in popularity. If choosing one sounds a bit overwhelming, worry not. I'll get you started with a few of my favorite Bluetooth pleasure products.

Best App-Controlled Sex Toys

Best app-controlled panty vibrator

We-Vibe Moxie If play at home and in public sounds like your idea of a good time, check out the We-Vibe Moxie. This smooth, silicone toy clips securely into panties and delivers discreet vibration to the clitoris. Let your partner operate the Moxie from across the room or across the globe or give them the handheld remote to keep things spicy when you're out and about together.

For all the details, check out my We-Vibe Moxie review

Best app-controlled vibrating wand

Lovense Domi Sex up mutual masturbation sessions with your partner with my favorite Bluetooth wand, the Lovense Domi. Moderately sized for easy maneuvering but deeply rumbly and powerful, the Domi can be synced with your playlist or programmed with settings that are yours (and your partner's) alone.

One of the best features of the Domi is that it runs for 5-6 hours on a single charge. 

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Best app-controlled cock ring

We-Vibe Pivot Not only is this powerful vibrating cock ring designed to stimulate the clitoris as well as the penis during intercourse, it makes a great solo toy as well. This is especially true if you've got a partner willing to wield the controls while you lie back and enjoy the rumbly ride. 

Learn more: What Do Cock Rings Do?

Best app-controlled sex toy set 

Lovense Max 2 and Lovense Nora The Max 2 stroker and Nora rabbit-style vibrator can be used separately or together, and when I say together, I mean they can respond to the other's movements over Bluetooth to simulate play with your partner. You can also enjoy playing with two Max strokers and two Nora vibrators together. Now that's what I call keeping the spark alive.

The Max 2 features contraction and vibration sensations, while the Nora features a rotating head for G-spot stimulation and an external vibrator for clitoral pleasure. 

Learn more about playing with toys together: Sex Toys For Couples